Saturday, May 2, 2009

Transitions

I have come to a realization: I am bad at transitions. Any interruption in my schedule, any unexpected event, any detour from the normal routine can really throw me for a loop. I used to think that I was good at transitions, that I was a chameleon adapting to any situation that I found myself in. Now, I realize that I don't adapt, instead I ignore. If things change I choose to ignore the problem or issue and wait for things to return to normal. My plan is flawed, because things never really return to normal. Here is where the problem arises because I want to meet every circumstance in the same way, with the same attitude and belief system. Yet things have changed. Yesterday is not the same as today, nor will it be the same tomorrow. Relinquishing control and learning that people and circumstances change turns into a daily struggle for me. I can control that which I know and am familiar with, I can't control the unknown. This is why I am horrible at transitions, because I don't embrace the unknown, I ignore it. So what do I do with the unending barrage of transitions that make up my life? Well... I usually hide. Sometimes I hide behind anger, stubbornness, withdrawal, and many other types of avoidance behavior. What should I do? I should pray, I should have courage, I should embrace the change, I should expect change. People and things in this world are in a constant state of flux, the sooner I accept it, the sooner I will be able to transition.

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